Can parents have a guilt-free career?
By: Claire, redwigwam
From the day your child was born, you knew from then on they’d be the most important part of your life. Another one down the line, you’ve not only got two bundles of joy to look after and care for but where does your career fit in?
This is a tough one, everyone is different and what some regard as good parenting, others would frown upon in every shape and form. However, times are changing, it’s becoming more and more familiar for Mummy and Daddy to be working regular hours while juggling the kids’ lives, but can you do it without feeling guilty?
Simply put… yes you can!
You are doing absolutely nothing wrong. If you’re actively pursuing a career, you’ll typically be earning a salary, and with a salary comes treats for you and the kids, there’s nothing ‘selfish’ about that; I’m sure the kids would love a trip to Florida or somewhere that actually gets hot when it’s supposed to.
You’re still a person too
If you’ve got a career, you’re helping your personal development, you’ve got your own goals and achievements that you can celebrate with your family. There’s no harm in being proud of your own feats and it’s something your children can tell their friends about in school. You’re not neglecting anything by working while you’d otherwise be watching daytime TV, who needs repeats of Jeremy Kyle?
Assign some time to bond
Get in a few board games, turn off the computers, laptops, phones, tablets, or simply put them to the side. Play a game of Scrabble together and enjoy the time you spend together, maybe even play video games with them if they have a console. If you spend some quality time with your children when both you and they have the time, the feeling of guilt will quickly fade.
If you’re thinking about going to the supermarket, just do an online shop instead. The 2-3 hours you spend at the shops can instead be used as family time, you could even incorporate the kids into the shop and have them do it with you. You’ve now freed up some time to relax and without too much hassle.
Take Social Media with a pinch of salt
There is a possibility that one of the key things creating guilt is social media. You’ve probably noticed that some fellow parents on your friend's list are stay-at-home parents, these people will often write a status or ten about how glad they are they can spend so much time with their children; this is great for them, but it doesn’t help you.
You need to forget about these people, they are living their own lives and have decided not to pursue a career alongside being a parent, that’s their choice. You should never compare yourself to them, you will do things differently and most importantly you don’t know if these people are REALLY happy with their life decisions.
Still not convinced?
If you genuinely don’t feel you can have a guilt-free career, then don’t. There is absolutely nothing wrong in devoting your full time and effort to your children. With that said, there is also nothing wrong with pursuing a career. At the end of the day, the world is changing and with it comes new ways of life; what was once thought to be a no-go is increasingly becoming the norm. You no longer have to put your career on hold when you become a parent, and that’s just fine.
Do what YOU think is right.
However, if you’re struggling to find roles that allow you to work while raising a family, then register for flexible part-time and temporary jobs at redwigwam